Cursed to the rescue again, busting common myths in today’s society. Disclaimer – if you don’t like controversial posts, don’t read this.
Myth #1 – Good things come to those who wait.
No. Good things come to those who work their asses off and earn them. I don’t understand the sense of entitlement that seems to have taken over my generation. Nothing is “coming” to you except for heartache if you continue to let the world run over your life. Get up, dust off, and get to work. That’s the only way you’ll ever be anybody.
Myth #2 – People from the South are dumb.
I know lots of Southerners, myself included, who are educated, hardworking and intelligent. If you look hard enough, you can find stupidity anywhere. It has nothing to do with what the GPS says.
Myth #3 – A snake is a snake no matter how many times it sheds its skin.
An idiom commonly used in the South, this statement implies that people don’t change. I disagree. I am an example of a person who has truly changed over the last few years. Physically, I have lost about 40 pounds. Emotionally, I am happier. Behaviorally, I have improved to the point that I don’t remember the old me – manipulative and dishonest with an “always the victim” attitude. Now, there are some people who choose not to change, but it’s just that – a choice. People absolutely can change if they want to.
Myth #4 – Dinosaurs are extinct.
WRONG. No, Rex isn’t invading suburban neighborhoods. And you probably won’t see a pterodactyl perched on your fence post this evening. But until we can reach the bottom of the deepest part of the ocean, technologically, no one can prove to me that dinosaurs have completely disappeared from the Earth. I don’t care what people say – there’s all kinds of shit down there we don’t know about.
Myth #5 – Skinnier = Prettier.
I have had a weight problem my entire life, but I can tell you that there’s no bony bitch this side of Heaven I wouldn’t put myself against. Just because you’re tiny does not mean you are better looking than me or any other full-figured woman who enjoys cheeseburgers and pizza. In my opinion, it comes down to confidence and attitude. In fact, a recent study showed that men who are married to curvy women are happier. And it may be because they’d choose a bubbly, beautiful, sweet girl with a few rolls than a stuck-up, tiny little thing who doesn’t have her priorities in line. Of course, there are delightful and personable Skinny Minnies and there are also fat girls who are raging bitches – there are exceptions to every rule. But I’m hot even if I’m not a size 2 and no one is going to tell me differently. I have just as much play as anyone who doesn’t shop on the plus size clearance rack.
Myth #6 – We say things we don’t mean when we are angry.
I have heard this little phrase my whole life, even by pastors and counselors. Sorry, I think you’re wrong. If anything, anger gives us the balls to say EXACTLY what we’re thinking – our truth. I don’t think anger makes us careless with our words. I think anger makes us brave.
Myth #7 – Blood is thicker than water.
It depends. I know some families (again, mine included) whose ideas on love are so warped that they aren’t sure how to be loyal. Blood means nothing to some. Narcissists, chronic liars, hypochondriacs, martyrs, opportunists. Actually, perhaps the reason I am so loyal is because I’ve seen that water can be, in fact, thicker than the most similar forms of blood.
Myth #8 – There is no cure for AIDS/cancer.
You mean to tell me that we have put a man on the moon, built fully functioning robots and invented things like electricity and hybrid cars, but we haven’t come up with a pill or a vaccine that prevents or cures the world’s most awful illnesses?! Cancer treatments have become a multi-billion dollar business. Finding a cure or preventative for cancer means cutting those profits and that “just won’t do.”
Myth #9 – Time heals all wounds.
No it doesn’t. For some, time gives us room to think about the past, and honestly, that can be worse. And this applies to any kind of “wound,” really. Diabetic foot ulcers only get worse overtime and they can cause more problems the longer they exist. People wounded by gunshots always feel pain, even years and years later. Heartache is wound from which we can learn, but the hurt never goes away, and as time goes on, certain things will trigger the memory of heartache and you turn into a basket case all over again. And grieving over the death of a loved one hurts forever, especially when all you have left of that person are memories and dreams.
Myth #10 – Relationships/Marriage are hard work.
I’ve always been told that love is complicated, that marriage is hard work and that romantic relationships require lots of sacrifice and compromise. I completely disagree. If you have to work hard to not fight with your spouse, or really make a huge sacrifice to refrain from cheating on your spouse or even can’t wait to get away from your spouse because they’re on your nerves, you are NOT married to the right person. “The One” will never make you work hard for their love. Relationships that are right are not difficult. When you’re with the person you should be, it’s easy. Sure, everybody’s going to disagree sometimes, but those little issues aren’t deal breakers. I agree more with the analogy my daddy uses – relationships are like farts. If you have to force them, they’re probably shit.
Meg / cC